Stomp the Peacock!

It was a pleasant afternoon, truly pleasant. Nice warm weather, comfortable air conditioning, quiet house, thanks to my sweet one spending time with her grandparents and then...WHAM! Suddenly, like a good afternoon nap interrupted by a telemarketer, my afternoon hit a blip!

I found this ridiculousness on the web. Click here. It got my dander up - really it did. If you are an adoptive mom- be warned -- you are about to get ticked!!

I think it is wonderful to recognize moms. Heaven knows we do an awful lot - most of it is not all that grand or exciting, but it is and can be rewarding, and in the long view of life, being a mom is really important - so I am all for celebrating the motherhood. BUT REALLY, NBC - how in this day and time, in this politically correct society do you get away with declaring a category distinction called NON-MOM moms and including adoptive moms in that category? Who is not doing their job at the National Broadcasting Center today?

As the mother of a child, not born of my body, but in my heart and soul, the mother of a child whose life was entrusted to me and my husband on the day of her birth, I am incensed, insulted, hurt and left with a kick in the gut. I AM HER MOTHER. "There is no NON-MOM MOM category in Motherhood." There is No NON-MOM category for me. There just seems to be a dire need for communication with someone in this area. I am furious!

I don't know if I have even addressed my child's adoption on this blog or not. It is a miracle for our family - she is a miracle, a gift of God and there is not a single day that goes by that I do not say a prayer of thanks for her, for her birthmother and father, and for the gift of adoption. I am proud to be her mommy. I am not ashamed of the adoption label, but that said, I don't talk about it much because it is her story. Hers alone to tell when and to whom she wants to. The only time you will ever hear me reference adoption, will be to tell my side of the story. How God used time and people in my life, to produce a miracle in 2004.

It is just so hurtful to me that a media organization can get away with calling adoptive moms non-moms and if my name and story were in that category, I would be really offended. I am really offended anyway.I have read the nominees' stories - they are some wonderful, deserving of recognition ladies, but to call them Non-Moms is a tragedy. I feel so sorry for them, that NBC has labeled them in this way, and by doing so, has labeled me and all the other adoptive moms as well.

I am trying to find a "happy moment" in this craziness, some semblance of sanity and humor to get me out of this miry pit, the only thing redeemable to me is that it has stirred up my emotions toward adoption and all the complicated pieces of the puzzle on this lazy afternoon. It has caused me to remember fondly the moment I first saw my precious daughter, the moment she was first placed in my arms, the feelings that I felt when after months of waiting, a judge declared her legally our family. It also caused me to think about her birthmother and all she went through in 2004. To remember her and how much it took to entrust that sweet little life to someone else, and to thank God once again for the opportunity to be this sweet child's mommy. I guess I should thank the nincompoop who thought up the category title and description. Thank him or her for the gentle push to remember how much Mother's Day means to me and how I never will take it for granted again.

Do you think we can switch "The Office", and "Law and Order" to another network? I really don't want to see that peacock symbol tonight!!

Thanks for letting me rant... now,back to more pleasant posts tomorrow! (I hope!)

Happily Ever After,
Beverly